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How to Build Confidence and Peace of Mind
Eight tips to help you push through the fear and self-doubt.
By Susan Jeffers, Ph.D.
There are few of us who escape feelings of fear and self-doubt as we go about our life. Not to worry! We can all learn how to create within us a wonderful sense of confidence and peace of mind as we face all situations in our lives. My book Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway® is filled with very powerful tools to help us push through the fear and self-doubt in order to create a beautiful and satisfying life. Here is a taste of just a few of these tools...
1. Build your sense of trust in yourself. Your first task is to build the trust that whatever happens in your life, you can handle it all. Right now, think of something about any area of your life that is bothering you and repeat to yourself ten times the important words, "Whatever happens, I'll handle it." I suspect you will immediately begin to feel a sense of peace within your being. These are important words to have when the "what if's" come up. "What if I lose my job? I'll handle it." "What if I get sick? I'll handle it." "What if something happens to my marriage? I'll handle it." And what does "I'll handle it" mean? It means, "I'll learn from it. I'll grow from it. I'll make it a triumph!"
2. Do your very best, then let go of the outcome. To help you let go, develop the trust that "It's all happening perfectly." This calming affirmation is a shortened version of: "I've done my best, but even if things don't go the way I want them to go, I will simply find a way to be enriched by whatever life brings me. I will learn and grow from it all. Therefore, it truly is all happening perfectly." Repetition over and over again of this wonderful affirmation, will definitely quiet the negative chatter of the mind and help you let go of the outcome. Peace at last!
3. Stop complaining. Complaining is a big clue that you are not taking responsibility for your experience of life. Instead of seeing life's obstacles as problems, see them as opportunities, opening the door to growth. When you can control your reactions to whatever life hands you, you have the upper hand. You now have a choice: You can create your own misery...or you can create your own sense of growth and wellbeing. That's power! Every time you have the opportunity to stretch your capacity to handle the world around you, the more powerful and confident you will feel.
4. Yes, "Feel the fear and do it anyway." Often we think, "I'll do it when I am not so afraid." But in reality, it works the other way round. The "doing it" comes before the fear goes away. The only way to get rid of the fear of doing something is to go out and do it. Action is the key. Once you have done something you have feared a number of times, guess what happens...the fear of that particular situation goes away. And it's then time to further expand the comfort zone and move on to the next situation you fear. That's what growth is all about. And as your confidence builds, it will become easier and easier to "feel the fear and do it anyway!"
5. When making decisions, adopt the "no-lose" philosophy. The "no-lose" philosophy tells us that "I can't lose - regardless of the outcome of the decision I make. I look forward to the opportunities for learning and for growing that either choice gives me." Remember, if you learn through your "mistakes," there are no mistakes! In this way, the "no-lose" approach to decision-making guarantees that all your decisions will be the right decisions.
6. Know that you count. Know that your presence makes a difference. If you don't understand this very important fact, act as if you do make a difference! Just keep asking yourself the "act-as-if" question in all areas of your life: "What would I be doing if I were really important here?" Make a list and then take action. Soon you will "live into" the realization that you really are important.
7. Commit 100% to all areas of your life. That means when you are at work or with your family and friends, or meeting new people, or volunteering in the community...or whatever...give it all you've got, holding nothing back. When you commit to giving 100%, your sense of focus, excitement, participation, enjoyment, fulfillment, and happiness come alive. What a glorious feeling that is!
8. Say "thank you" a lot. Saying "thank you" is a wonderful way to make important connections in all areas of your life. The words "thank you" can also help you appreciate and focus on all the good that is around you, thus helping you release any feelings of anger and resentment you may be holding. You can see why the words "thank you" are two of the most powerful words ever spoken.
If you, step by step, begin incorporating into your life these tips, your sense of confidence and peace of mind will grow and grow. Remember: there is plenty of time...but now is definitely the time to begin!
Eight tips to help you push through the fear and self-doubt.
By Susan Jeffers, Ph.D.
There are few of us who escape feelings of fear and self-doubt as we go about our life. Not to worry! We can all learn how to create within us a wonderful sense of confidence and peace of mind as we face all situations in our lives. My book Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway® is filled with very powerful tools to help us push through the fear and self-doubt in order to create a beautiful and satisfying life. Here is a taste of just a few of these tools...
1. Build your sense of trust in yourself. Your first task is to build the trust that whatever happens in your life, you can handle it all. Right now, think of something about any area of your life that is bothering you and repeat to yourself ten times the important words, "Whatever happens, I'll handle it." I suspect you will immediately begin to feel a sense of peace within your being. These are important words to have when the "what if's" come up. "What if I lose my job? I'll handle it." "What if I get sick? I'll handle it." "What if something happens to my marriage? I'll handle it." And what does "I'll handle it" mean? It means, "I'll learn from it. I'll grow from it. I'll make it a triumph!"
2. Do your very best, then let go of the outcome. To help you let go, develop the trust that "It's all happening perfectly." This calming affirmation is a shortened version of: "I've done my best, but even if things don't go the way I want them to go, I will simply find a way to be enriched by whatever life brings me. I will learn and grow from it all. Therefore, it truly is all happening perfectly." Repetition over and over again of this wonderful affirmation, will definitely quiet the negative chatter of the mind and help you let go of the outcome. Peace at last!
3. Stop complaining. Complaining is a big clue that you are not taking responsibility for your experience of life. Instead of seeing life's obstacles as problems, see them as opportunities, opening the door to growth. When you can control your reactions to whatever life hands you, you have the upper hand. You now have a choice: You can create your own misery...or you can create your own sense of growth and wellbeing. That's power! Every time you have the opportunity to stretch your capacity to handle the world around you, the more powerful and confident you will feel.
4. Yes, "Feel the fear and do it anyway." Often we think, "I'll do it when I am not so afraid." But in reality, it works the other way round. The "doing it" comes before the fear goes away. The only way to get rid of the fear of doing something is to go out and do it. Action is the key. Once you have done something you have feared a number of times, guess what happens...the fear of that particular situation goes away. And it's then time to further expand the comfort zone and move on to the next situation you fear. That's what growth is all about. And as your confidence builds, it will become easier and easier to "feel the fear and do it anyway!"
5. When making decisions, adopt the "no-lose" philosophy. The "no-lose" philosophy tells us that "I can't lose - regardless of the outcome of the decision I make. I look forward to the opportunities for learning and for growing that either choice gives me." Remember, if you learn through your "mistakes," there are no mistakes! In this way, the "no-lose" approach to decision-making guarantees that all your decisions will be the right decisions.
6. Know that you count. Know that your presence makes a difference. If you don't understand this very important fact, act as if you do make a difference! Just keep asking yourself the "act-as-if" question in all areas of your life: "What would I be doing if I were really important here?" Make a list and then take action. Soon you will "live into" the realization that you really are important.
7. Commit 100% to all areas of your life. That means when you are at work or with your family and friends, or meeting new people, or volunteering in the community...or whatever...give it all you've got, holding nothing back. When you commit to giving 100%, your sense of focus, excitement, participation, enjoyment, fulfillment, and happiness come alive. What a glorious feeling that is!
8. Say "thank you" a lot. Saying "thank you" is a wonderful way to make important connections in all areas of your life. The words "thank you" can also help you appreciate and focus on all the good that is around you, thus helping you release any feelings of anger and resentment you may be holding. You can see why the words "thank you" are two of the most powerful words ever spoken.
If you, step by step, begin incorporating into your life these tips, your sense of confidence and peace of mind will grow and grow. Remember: there is plenty of time...but now is definitely the time to begin!
The Truth About Magick - How to Turn Your Ex into a Toad
by Psychic Darlene
Magic is based on a couple of vital axioms. Every magical cause works from the inside out, and in magic there are no such things as miracles. To the magician, mind and matter are a continuity. At one level he agrees with the Buddhist sages that the world is maya or illusion. Another, he simply assumes certain mental gymnastics can produce specfic physical effects, because ultimately there's no real difference between the two.
Magic isn't a power. It's a collection of techniques. The magician deals with gods-superhuman entities whose presence fills him with awe. A cardinal rule of magic is "KNOW THYSELF". Many psychiatrists and therapists undergo analysis as part of their training. The magician, particulary the Qabalist, will undertake astral journeys to achieve sufficent balance to allow spirital forces to flow through him. Some use the virtually identical technique of creative imagination in an attempt to integrate the psyche. The magician forms a very curios, almost telepathic relationship with his apprentce.
You need to practice relaxation. The biggest single problem will be maintaing the relaxed state. There is always a tendency for tension to creep in once your attention wanders. The only answer is continual pratice, until relaxation becomes a habit. Maintaining this state is essential. When distrations have been reduced to a minimum and Inner Plane contacts establised, there is a strong likelihood of an energy flow along the lines of contact. If the flow meets a tension barrier, you'll find yourself, to put it mildly, in an uncomfortable position. Worse still, the more successfully you've made contact, the more dangerous it is to erect a tension barrier.
In viewing the Inner Planes, you're making use of instrument of imagination. In other words, you hope to see the entities and forces of those alien dimensions reflected on this potent mental screen. When you make an Inner Plane contact bt these methods, the forms you see are astral forms, a translation by your imaginationof forces from the Beyond, rather like the magnetic "bottle" used by physicists to contain nuclear energies. The forces are potent, the forms impressive, but it is a fool's game accepting symbol for reality. The only justification for using an astral form of contact is the hope that it will eventually lead you to direct experience of spiritual reality.
Spellweaving, a very ancient art long associated with witchcraft, has been used for both good and ill. When a spell is cast, it is the intention and concentration of the spellweaver that gives the spell its power, for either postive or negative results. The ethical spellweaver works only with good, or white, magic and takes a pledge to "harm none"
Magic works positively with natural and elemental ingredients such as the planets, and stars, gems, and crystals, trees, plants, flowers, birds, animals, and stones. Spellweaving is not seprate from God and spirituality, it is part of that consciousness. A spell is very simple. It is a positive affirmation, using focused energy. Spells are traditionally cast outside, and for the kind of natural magic found.
Now for a fun magical spell... How to Turn Your Ex Into a Frog.
Ingredients:
a piece of cloth (one of his old shirts would be best)
a big handful of sandy dirt
a picture of your ex or a drawing
a darning needle
a piece of black thread
some green paint or a green felt pen
Do this at midnight on a full moon. Collect your ingredients and find a safe place where you can be undisturbed. Lay the piece of material on a flat surface. Put the dirt on top, and then the picture of your ex. Gather up the sides and then take the needle and thread and sew the material into a sack shape.
Take the grren paint or pen and, on the outside of the bag, draw the ugliest frog you can.
Leave it under the moonlight for the whole night. In the morning, throw the lot into the garbage bin.
This spell will help others to find him just as repellent as you do. Remember you have to believe in the spell for it to work. You can not have a thread of doubt.
About the Author
Psychic Darlene, a kind, compassionate, and sincere tarot card reader, and she specializes in Tarot Spells. You can visit her at her website, http://www.psychicdarlene.com/ (This article can be reprinted freely online, as long as the entire article and this bio is included.)
Magic is based on a couple of vital axioms. Every magical cause works from the inside out, and in magic there are no such things as miracles. To the magician, mind and matter are a continuity. At one level he agrees with the Buddhist sages that the world is maya or illusion. Another, he simply assumes certain mental gymnastics can produce specfic physical effects, because ultimately there's no real difference between the two.
Magic isn't a power. It's a collection of techniques. The magician deals with gods-superhuman entities whose presence fills him with awe. A cardinal rule of magic is "KNOW THYSELF". Many psychiatrists and therapists undergo analysis as part of their training. The magician, particulary the Qabalist, will undertake astral journeys to achieve sufficent balance to allow spirital forces to flow through him. Some use the virtually identical technique of creative imagination in an attempt to integrate the psyche. The magician forms a very curios, almost telepathic relationship with his apprentce.
You need to practice relaxation. The biggest single problem will be maintaing the relaxed state. There is always a tendency for tension to creep in once your attention wanders. The only answer is continual pratice, until relaxation becomes a habit. Maintaining this state is essential. When distrations have been reduced to a minimum and Inner Plane contacts establised, there is a strong likelihood of an energy flow along the lines of contact. If the flow meets a tension barrier, you'll find yourself, to put it mildly, in an uncomfortable position. Worse still, the more successfully you've made contact, the more dangerous it is to erect a tension barrier.
In viewing the Inner Planes, you're making use of instrument of imagination. In other words, you hope to see the entities and forces of those alien dimensions reflected on this potent mental screen. When you make an Inner Plane contact bt these methods, the forms you see are astral forms, a translation by your imaginationof forces from the Beyond, rather like the magnetic "bottle" used by physicists to contain nuclear energies. The forces are potent, the forms impressive, but it is a fool's game accepting symbol for reality. The only justification for using an astral form of contact is the hope that it will eventually lead you to direct experience of spiritual reality.
Spellweaving, a very ancient art long associated with witchcraft, has been used for both good and ill. When a spell is cast, it is the intention and concentration of the spellweaver that gives the spell its power, for either postive or negative results. The ethical spellweaver works only with good, or white, magic and takes a pledge to "harm none"
Magic works positively with natural and elemental ingredients such as the planets, and stars, gems, and crystals, trees, plants, flowers, birds, animals, and stones. Spellweaving is not seprate from God and spirituality, it is part of that consciousness. A spell is very simple. It is a positive affirmation, using focused energy. Spells are traditionally cast outside, and for the kind of natural magic found.
Now for a fun magical spell... How to Turn Your Ex Into a Frog.
Ingredients:
a piece of cloth (one of his old shirts would be best)
a big handful of sandy dirt
a picture of your ex or a drawing
a darning needle
a piece of black thread
some green paint or a green felt pen
Do this at midnight on a full moon. Collect your ingredients and find a safe place where you can be undisturbed. Lay the piece of material on a flat surface. Put the dirt on top, and then the picture of your ex. Gather up the sides and then take the needle and thread and sew the material into a sack shape.
Take the grren paint or pen and, on the outside of the bag, draw the ugliest frog you can.
Leave it under the moonlight for the whole night. In the morning, throw the lot into the garbage bin.
This spell will help others to find him just as repellent as you do. Remember you have to believe in the spell for it to work. You can not have a thread of doubt.
About the Author
Psychic Darlene, a kind, compassionate, and sincere tarot card reader, and she specializes in Tarot Spells. You can visit her at her website, http://www.psychicdarlene.com/ (This article can be reprinted freely online, as long as the entire article and this bio is included.)